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Carnage I know that somebody there’s a young man on here that actually I think he said I’m like the but the mom or something which I thought was awesome because I can’t be peoples mom but as I pitched it earlier, I can also remember who I was at different ages, so in the future There’s a code written to show this is how this person you know what I mean of account, so what do you wanna do? I actually remember writing this out is it mean the median or the metaphor and then you were like what and I wrote out meta-META and then I put four and you were like what are you talking about and I said trust me meta-is going to be big someday and when that happens, you cut him down and you remind Zuck why and it’s not Zack it’s Zuck it’s Zuck ZUCK and he will think about all the children who lives well if you know you know and if you don’t you don’t and trust me if you don’t, you’re very lucky because I’ve warned other people you will never know what other people have done for you to live in your willful ignorance and if you live in the United States, and you think that you’re gonna take my United States flag away from me as an American veteran, you can go fuck yourselves I’mLadyRed
That’s because men are evil and are supposed to take the hit on literally everything and then also be ridiculed and demeaned for it, and then are expected apologize to everyone else for having actually found some success through all the bullshit.
Yah. But we need different talk. . . War talk. Tragedy talk. Victory talk. Defeat talk. Exhaustion talk Lotsa shid talk. And then some "OK lets get back at it" talk. U know man stuff Need iron to sharpen iron. We need to be unashamedly men. Falling down is not weak. Staying down is. Leaving your fren down is a sin.
I have a big aversion to spending time with people outside my family. Often feel like ... there are a hundred other things I should be working on, but I'm not sitting here with this person who probably wouldn't even come to my funeral. We've lost a lot of in-person community as the internet has come online.
men are socialized from day 1 to not be vulnerable...so you get to adult hood and its lonely and isolating at times and without that ability to connect you lose old friends and miss new friend opportunities.. we aint got the tools to deal with it, its sad and fucked up 😔
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If you're a UK pleb may I recommend Andy's Man Club? It's a suicide prevention charity which is focused on giving blokes a chance to talk. I told y'all that my friend died last week. It fucking sucks. He was inspirational bloke and I didn't always feel I deserved a friend of that quality. It's a lot to live up to. Anyway, he spent the last few years working for AMC and saved a lot of lives.
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Agreed. Since moving 20 hours away from where my family and friends live, I have effectively reduced my circle to zero. Nobody here is quite like me, so it's difficult to fit in, despite being very social. My wife can really only do so much.
It starts with you. Be the man who will start a hard conversation. Don't be afraid of asking scary questions. It wasn't until my late 20s that a man did it for me. And it woke me the fuck up. We lie to ourselves when we're alone.
For straight men, their best and only friend is usually the girlfriend or wife after mid-20s and up since most guys only discuss things like sports vs actually having a real conversation about things that matter. Or if lucky, they may have a close female friend who they can talk to like me, but then I end up being their unpaid therapist. It shouldn’t be that difficult for straight men to bond beyond watching sports and drinking but talking about feelings and sharing life stuff. Sensitive, artsy men do and so do gay men.
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This verse helps me when I feel like that…Psalm 34:17-18 The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
No question. I know this, have friends who would probably listen, and *still* tend to keep things close to the vest. But I'm grateful for my wife as she's always open to listening - even if I might not be particularly forthcoming. But I know many men don't have that good fortune. #grownostr View quoted note →
#masculineFrame a la LZRhodl. The internal struggles of man are always the hardest ones to deal with. The sense of brotherhood or comrodery with those that views align with your own is a good space to have. Being social creatures of varying degrees its important to know that something like this can exist if needed. But I also feel like theres a trap where one can lean on it infinitly worse than if they worked out the issues within themselves. The battle has always been YOUvsYOU. The outside is ephemeral and fleeting. I believe that the only way for the issues to be fixed and better is that the outside help the individual realize that even in the depths of the darkness that is only they that posses the power to see the light and walk towards it. Nobody can force you to do anything.