If one is not working toward one's dream, it is not one's dream right now.
Vayu
It is easy to see how ancient wisdom became systems of rules and laws, as rulers used the wisdom to their own ends.
Now all we are left with are the rules and laws, with little of the #wisdom rhat would free us from them.
Freedom is gained by shedding limitations we assume are our own, reinforced by our desire to be saved, accepted, or both.
No-one is coming to save you.
You will never meet your perception of someone else's expection.
Once these soul-crushing obligations have been lifted, you become free to share yourself with others, comforted in the wisdom of self.