MOTHER LOVE AND EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY As children, we are weak, helpless, and incompetent. We can’t protect ourselves. We can’t feed ourselves. We can’t offer anything in return. The only thing we need — and the only thing that keeps us alive — is the unconditional love of our mother. This is not a luxury. It is a survival mechanism. If we receive this love fully, something natural happens: we grow. We slowly transition from being dependent into becoming independent. From child to man. But if we don’t receive that unconditional love during our childhood — or if it’s inconsistent, withheld, or loaded with conditions — the transition doesn’t get triggered. Our body grows, but our emotional structure stays frozen. We remain stuck in the child state, still craving what was never received. The need doesn’t go away — we carry it forward, hidden under our adult skin. As we grow up, we start looking for that absent love. We find a woman and without knowing it, we project that same hunger for mother love onto her. We don’t want a woman — we want a mother. We want unconditional affection, constant attention, soothing, safety, forgiveness. We don’t want to be challenged or tested — we want to be held. But this never works. Because women cannot give unconditional mother love to a man. They can love their children unconditionally — but they love men only conditionally. Based on strength, direction, clarity, power. When a man behaves like a child, begging for love, needing reassurance, collapsing into emotion, seeking pleasure — her love fades, her respect disappears, and eventually, she leaves. This creates deep pain. To a child, abandonment by the mother is the ultimate trauma. And for a man who never grew up emotionally, it feels just the same. The breakup, the silence, the rejection — it hits like death. He doesn’t just lose a partner. He loses the illusion of the mother he thought he had finally found. And he spirals. Becomes needy. Broken. Addicted. Lost. The only way out is forward — not back. The hunger won’t disappear on its own. The wound won’t heal by itself. To move on, he must finally receive the love he missed — from the source. The real mother. That relationship must be addressed. He must confront it, understand it, repair it. Not to blame — but to resolve. To close the gap. Because only once the child inside is fully seen, held, and completed — can the man finally emerge. And only then can he love a woman maturely. Without need. Without fear. Without illusion. This is the emotional transition that turns boys into men. It cannot be skipped. It must be earned. And it begins with the mother.