There’s a moment in nearly every conversation about equity when the myth shows up.
You know the one. The myth of “hard work,” “personal responsibility,” and “deservingness.” The myth that says if someone is hungry, it’s their fault. That myth has a name: the Myth of White Supremacy. It’s the lie that some lives are worth more, that some people have earned comfort while others deserve to struggle.

I want to talk about something that came up during one of the Facilitated Conversations with Kim Crayton — Mediocre sessions. It’s a conversation I haven’t seen others have publicly because it’s risky. It requires care, compassion, and precision. And even then, someone may be harmed. But this is what the work of liberation looks like. Thinking deeply, moving differently, and engaging authentically, even when it’s uncomfortable or unclear.

I just saw a YouTube video titled “How White Supremacy Hijacked Christianity.” And without even watching it, I already disagree. White supremacy didn’t hijack Christianity. Christianity, as practiced in the United States, is white supremacy. From its inception on this land, Christian doctrine has served as the moral scaffolding for genocide, enslavement, colonization, and systemic control. It didn’t just accompany those atrocities…it justified them.

One thing that became clear to me yesterday is that choosing to live by the principles of a supremacy-, coercion-, discrimination-, and exploitation-free worldview comes with a cost that too few people talk about honestly. You will lose people. Not because they’re “bad,” but because they cannot or will not make the same choice.

Today reminded me that I still have work to do. I attended a professional/friend event and if you know me, you know how rare that is. Rare enough that when I show up, people are genuinely surprised. The conversation started off light, low-stakes, easy to maintain. But as often happens, it took a turn. One of those sharp lefts where suddenly you realize you’re no longer having a conversation and it feels like you’re defending your right to exist.

Your isolation is not accidental. It’s intentional. A client of mine recently attended two international tech conferences and reached out to share his experience. The first, he said, was “status quo white dudes and a handful of women.” The second, Mozilla Festival, felt completely different: “Good vibes... the diversity and efforts to promote diversity are HIGH. It feels really different. It feels... good.”

Two days after the U.S. election, the predictable noise has started. I’m hearing the chatter that success on California’s Prop 50 means Gavin Newsom is now the obvious choice to become president. And once again, we see the binary worldview that most white folx operate from: the idea that political outcomes are simple equations. A + B = C. Win one thing, ascend to the next. But it’s not that simple. It never is.

What if your worth was never measured by control, dominance, or status? What if being “a good, white man” started with compassion and accountability? That’s the work. Join us Dec 6.

Life Beyond The Supremacy Myth - Winter 2025

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I know that a lot of folx in the U.S. woke up this morning with a bit of the weight we’ve been carrying for a year lifted. A year ago today, my life quite literally fell apart. This is no exaggeration because for three days, I could not walk. My body simply stopped.

Look around, the crisis of disconnection among men isn’t new...it’s inherited. A culture built on control leaves no room for care. Life Beyond the Supremacy Myth is a call to rebuild community where integrity, joy, and courage take the place of domination. It's an invitation to learn how to show up differently. Register now:

Life Beyond The Supremacy Myth - Winter 2025