Narcissists think we betrayed them. When we're no longer willing to be supply for them. It's not actually betrayal of course, we're finally just choosing ourselves. We're no longer willing to be owned by them. They'll be angry, but we get our lives back and that's a win for us! Choose yourself!

Narcissists program us and everyone else to think we're the problem and they're innocent. Of course this isn't true. Even if we have caused problems in the relationship, it still doesn't make us "the problem". We get to own our part of this, but we have no business owning theirs! We're never the only problem!

We can't save or change the toxic people in our lives. We all must work to do this for ourselves. No one can want it enough for someone else to change. Just as we are all very much who we are, so are they. The good news is we can all heal and do better for ourselves in our own lives. Focus on you and what you want in your life and let them do whatever they're going to, preferably somewhere else.

Reactive abuse is a regular tactic they use to shame and blame you for their behavior. Like everything else, it's usually subtle and unseen by anyone else. This leads us to question ourselves. You didn't imagine it or make it up. Just because no one else saw it, doesn't mean it didn't happen!

Narcissists expect us to behave in the way that they want us to, no matter how they behave. It's always a double standard. They expect everything from us including our reactions and fights when they want them. The only way to win this sick game with them is to not play it. Choose yourself and your life!

When we release the shame and judgement, we simply have experiences. Not good or bad, although many we don't want to repeat. The resistance to feeling these emotions is often what hurts and holds us back. Take the time, do the work and learn to allow yourself to process and release these emotions. Be sure to be kind to you along the way!

None of us are failures! We simply haven't figured out how to succeed at the things we want to do, or what's holding us back. Most things often take many more tries than we would like or it seems it "should". The attempt and the process is much more important. This is how we continually move forward in our lives!

Narcissists only really care about power and control. It's how they ensure they will get supply. There is nothing you can ever give them that will be enough. They will always push for more. You don't ever need to give more than you have no matter what they tell you! Focus on you, your life and healing!

It's always good news if and when we can see any of our dysfunctions. We all have them in one way or another. We can't change anything we're unaware of. Allow yourself to be grateful for the awareness. Then we can allow ourselves to change what we want to when we're ready to.

The attempt at the things we want to do is the most important thing. We may not know if it was good or not until long after. The attempt also allows us to get better at doing everything. We will never know unless and until we try. Give yourself the credit for all the things you try no matter what and always be kind to you along the way!