This may be one of the thoughts we have or even say when we begin spotting toxic people and seeing them for who they really are. I don't necessarily recommend actually saying this to them. It just causes drama we don't need in our lives, but sometimes it good to get it out of our system. Keep yourself safe if you do this though.

Narcissists live in an illusion that they try to project on everyone to hide who they really are. They don't want anything or anyone to shatter this illusion. The more we watch their behavior, the more it shows who they really are. We don't have to play their games or live in their illusion. Choose yourself and protect your peace!

It's not logical someone would take joy in hurting others. Unfortunately narcissists enjoy watching us suffer. It's not right or ok, but it's true with most of them. You do not need people like this in your life and you don't have to participate. Find people who celebrate you, not your suffering.

Accountability and looking in the mirror at ourselves often only really hurts because of the shame and judgement we feel. This not only comes from society, but we often perpetuate this on ourselves. Without shame and judgement everything is simply experiences we can learn and grow from.

Toxic people project everything they do onto everyone else. Amidst the chaos and confusion they create it's sometimes hard to see that they are doing this. Once we see it, it's hard not to see. Until then, go easy on yourself for not spotting it sooner. We only see and understand things when we do and we can't force it any sooner.

So many of us have so much shame that is holding us back in our lives. Learning to allow it to surface and then to release it is life altering. It allows us to move forward from things we didn't realize we were stuck in. It also allows new levels of peace and love in ourselves that we all deserve!

Subtle emotional abuse and manipulation is not easy to understand even when we see it in the beginning. It takes time to see what's actually happening. The important thing is we did figure it out or are figuring it out. The most important thing is to be kind to ourselves through the process. This allows us the clarity to move forward with our lives.

Narcissists don't usually give an actual apology. It's always something like, "I'm sorry you feel that way" or something similar. The only possible exception is if it will make them look good to other people. If it doesn't seem sincere, it's probably not. Focus on you and what you need and give it to yourself.

Cutting people out of our lives is never easy. It's even harder the longer they've been in our lives. I think it's much more of a practice and a process than anything we ever get perfect. Give yourself the credit for continuing to learn better boundaries and hold them.

We all want the easy route. I get it. I don't want to do the work either. The reality is that we don't get through things without doing the work. It's essential to find and release the resistance to why we don't want to do the work. Then we can move forward into the life we truly want to build and have.