There's so much shame and judgement and negativity in the world already. We don't need to add any more to it or keep anyone that's negative in our lives. It doesn't mean we necessarily need to cut them off. We can choose to spend more time with positive, supportive people though. Most of all allow time and kindness for yourself!

They train and program us into isolation. Once we're there, in many ways it becomes more and more difficult to really know how bad our lives are. This is what they want. They can then do or say anything they want without us hearing that it's not ok. None of this is ok or healthy! Find support from people who care. They're out there!

Choosing ourselves is one of the hardest things for most people to do. When we decide to let go of others it's even harder, especially if they won't let go and let us grow. Their resistance to us moving forward causes many of their own issues I think. Resistance in ourselves never works out well.

Even if they were to or are treating us better, it doesn't change the way they treated us in the relationship. We don't have to forgive or allow anyone back into our lives that has abused us no matter what anyone else says. The most important thing is for us to heal, love ourselves and move forward with our lives.

It’s not just delivering the message or communicating. It’s how do I do this without adding anymore shame and judgement to what I’m saying. That’s one of the hardest things to do and it’s one of the absolute most important things we could ever do. No one needs any more shame or judgement in their lives.

It’s heartbreaking to have to make the choice to cut anyone out of our lives, especially if we love them. Choosing ourselves, our peace and our health makes that choice a little less hard. It’s still not easy. I continue to work on myself and heal and my hope is the same for everyone, so that no one ever has to make that choice about us.

After abuse, we don't trust anyone!! This is helpful I think in the beginning while we heal. After that though, it just keeps everyone out including healthy people we may want in our lives. This is why doing the work to heal is so important. It's the only way to truly be free. Take the time and do the work!

We all deserve love, compassion and kindness from our partners. If this isn’t something we’re receiving and they aren’t actively actually working on giving you those things. It’s probably time to think about what you actually want and if you want to stay in that kind of relationship.

Narcissists rob you of your peace, but actually sneak in to steal all the control in your life. They don’t actually care about anything other than control. If they have control over you, they can get supply from you. We don’t have to respond or allow them to control us though. Take the time and do the work to heal and move forward with your life!

Narcissists will try to hoover you back into the relationship and then lock you into it. They don’t just want to suck you back in, they want to trap you so they can continue to use and abuse you. The unfortunate thing is that we don’t truly see it until we do. Be kind with yourself no matter what happens or what you go through!