Testing all your boundaries. That’s what narcissists do. They will test all your boundaries and then test them again. When they find one they can't push past, they will then begin pushing other boundaries. They simply want control over everything in your life. Everything more and nothing less. They will push boundaries until you give in, or they will eventually move on if you don’t. Hold those boundaries tight!

An upward spiral just sounds better and it really is. Taking the time to allow and to learn to recognize our thoughts and emotions is wonderful. It helps us to increase our intuition. This allows us to begin to recognize not only when things don’t feel right, but what doesn’t feel right about them. This then allows us to be able to move through these situations much quicker with much less struggle.

You've made it through everything in your life to get you here. It wasn't easy, but you made it. The path in front of you may seem scary, but you have all the skills and knowledge to help you through it that you've developed from the past. These things will also help you move into the future you truly want. Keep going. You are worth it!

Narcissists lie, gaslight, manipulate, control and abuse. It’s what they do and they don’t think anything’s wrong with it. They might be ashamed of getting caught for it, but they’ll deny it anyway. They realize it’s wrong to get caught for doing it. They don’t think it’s wrong to do it though.

Forgiving ourselves seems easy and everyone seems to talk about it like you can just go do it. It may be that simple, but it’s not that easy. It's something we allow ourselves to do. It's much more of a process and a practice though. It's not something we just do. It takes time and work. It's something everyone can do though.

We've heard about how bad our narcissist’s exes were. We begin to question how bad they actually were especially after hearing from them how bad we are. This doesn’t mean any of us are innocent, but it makes you wonder how bad their exes actually were. Was this just another projection from the narcissist? Perhaps. The other important thing to realize is that we all get to decide for ourselves our own opinion of everyone including ourselves.

The strength and power we have to get through toxic relationships is an incredible thing to hold onto after you get out of these relationships. There are other behaviors that helped us to get through these relationships that can hurt a healthy relationship. Carefully, thoughtfully choose the behaviors you want to take into the next relationship.

The never ending story of narcissistic abuse. Love bombing, devaluing and discard. It leaves us empty and confused. It’s heartbreaking to watch and even worse to be in and live through. End the cycle, you and your future are worth it! You deserve to love yourself and live a life you truly love!

We are probably all considered toxic to some people. Especially if they are toxic themselves. The good people are aware that we don't always do the right things and we own it and work to get better. We can also acknowledge to ourselves that we do care and are working on being better. It's definitely something we can proud of ourselves for.

So many of us feel incredibly alone on Christmas whether we're surrounded by people or not. Sometimes it's worse when we're with people and still feel alone. This is normal and there's nothing wrong with you if you feel this way. Take some time to be with yourself even if it means time away from everyone else. Most of all be kind to you!