All I want for Christmas is all of the toxic and narcissistic people to be removed from our lives. For them to no longer affect our lives mentally, emotionally, physically or financially. The freedom for us to be ourselves and to be loved for it too! I wish this for every single one of you!

Toxic people try to ruin every single special occasion and Christmas is no exception. Everything must be about them and they'll throw a fit and cause drama and chaos if it's not. Try not to react to their childish fits if you can. Be kind to yourself either way. Allow yourself kindness and compassion. Their BS is only about them!

We often end up giving everyone else all of our kindness and compassion, but never really offering ourselves any. Turning this around is life changing! First giving this to ourselves until we are full. Then we have plenty to give to everyone else without depleting ourselves. Give to yourself first!

Merry Christmas and happy holidays to everyone! Sending so much love and peace to every single one of you! Grateful you are here! May your day be filled with an overabundance of peace, joy and connection. Allow yourself to embrace all the good things in your life. Hold those boundaries! You don't have to participate in anything that doesn't bring you peace, joy and love!

Narcissists will use this when they want to play victim and blame everything on you. Then they can say everything is your fault and you’re leaving them, even though that’s what they wanted. This still hurts even if it’s the best thing that could happen. It may be the opportunity you need. It definitely was for me.

Narcissists will do everything in their power to destroy any and all relationships you have with anyone else. Part of this is for control for sure. The other reason is that you will have a better relationship with all of these people than they are capable of. This brings up shame for them. Rather than trying to be better, change or face anything in their life. They will instead destroy your relationships with everyone they can.

Narcissists will try to trigger you forever in every interaction they have with you. It’s like a sick game to them. The hard part is how much we beat ourselves up when we react. It’s ok if you do react even though it sucks when we do. Do the best you can and be kind to you along the way. It's a process and a practice, not something we get perfect.

Being out of a narcissistic relationship feels a lot like a hangover. Mind is fuzzy, might have a headache and you definitely feel like crap. Unlike a hangover from alcohol, it lasts for more than a day or 2. It can last for months, years, or even decades. Detoxing takes time and it often doesn’t feel good. It is the path to being healthy again though. Take the time. Do the work. You are worth it!

Every single thing a narcissist ever does for anyone else always comes with an expectation. Narcissists are calculated in many things they do. Even when they aren't though, they always expect more from us. It's because to them, no one else matters. Nothing could be further from the truth! We all matter! I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds.

Narcissists want us to react and blow up so they can show everyone else how crazy we are. In reality, we're not crazy for reacting to their abuse, it's much more the opposite. The hard part is they hide what they do to us from everyone else. This is another reason for us to learn how to not react, until we can get away from them anyway. Be kind to you even when you react. We all deserve kindness and compassion especially from ourselves!