Narcissists use so many lies to keep us trapped and stuck. We often end up taking on their lies as our own even after the relationship ends. We must learn to differentiate between our own thoughts and those that came from someone else. Then process and release them. This is a major piece of healing! #grownostr

They have spent a lifetime developing their chameleon exterior and learning how to make people like them. It's a show and it's for you to never see who they truly are. They don't have a true self, only the image they show for every different person. They literally live in an illusion they created! #grownostr

To be clear, they don't care about anyone else. They don't want anyone else to feel better than them, unless they can take credit for it. Even then, they'll cut you back down immediately. Since they're always miserable, everyone around them must be more miserable than them, so they don't feel bad. #grownostr

The resistance holds us back from so many things in our lives. Most of this stems from shame and judgement. Without this, we could just decide and go do it without fear or hesitation. This is why it’s so important to work on your mental and emotional health. It is usually the thing that holds us back from getting the physical things done. #grownostr

Most of it's about shame. It's much easier for a narcissist to find something to shame you about, than ever face the shame they feel. They want you to feel worse, so they feel less bad. They don't want to and are unwilling to do the work to feel better themselves and there's nothing you can do about it. #grownostr