We've all gone through things in our lives, but this isn't who we are. It's not easy to discover who we really want to be, but it's something everyone deserves. You are exactly who you decide to be and become and you are the only one who can decide this for yourself! Allow yourself to let go of the past and move into a future you want! I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support. #grownostr

First of all, this is not something for us to shame or judge ourselves about. This is definitely something for us to become consciously aware of though. It is very hard to find solutions to move forward with our lives while we are only focusing on the problems. Acknowledge them, then move forward. #grownostr

Narcissists are all so very different, which makes it incredibly hard to spot them. I don’t think anyone can simply just spot all of them in first meeting them. It takes time to get to know them. Some will show themselves sooner than others, just as some are more severe narcissists than others. #grownostr

Too many people doubt they have the strength it takes to heal from narcissistic abuse. If you made it through it, you have all the strength you need. It's not scarier or harder to heal, it's just different. Unlike toxic relationships, healing gets easier over time. Get the support and do the work! #grownostr

Narcissists don't want you to talk to anyone about anything going on in your life. Part of this is for isolation, but part of this is so they can keep you questioning your own reality and off balance. They don't want you or anyone else to figure out what's actually going on. Break the silence and get the support! #grownostr

After being gaslit for years we lose trust in our thoughts and intuition. It happens slowly over time and this the the same way we must gain it back. This isn't something we can wait for, we must do the work to regain it. It's not easy, but that's one of the steps in getting your life back and you're worth it! #grownostr

We search for clues, if they are a narcissist and how we will know for sure. The truth is that often we won't be able to truly know for sure no matter how much we learn. The more important truth is that it doesn't actually matter. If we are not being treated in a way that is kind, loving and supportive. This is probably the only sign we need to see to know that this is not a healthy relationship. If they are not willing to admit, face and actually work on these things. Then we have to decide how long we actually want to continue with this kind of relationship. #grownostr

Enough time being gaslit in our lives and it may be months or years later and we still question ourselves. Learning to trust our own thoughts again is a process that takes time. It requires time and consistent work to heal. Be kind and patient with yourself. You deserve the same compassion you offer everyone else! #grownostr

I’ve wondered often over the years, how many more narcissists were in my life than I already knew about. I think this is a regular thing for us to think about on our healing journey. The important part is for us to not beat ourselves up for something we didn’t yet know. Be kind to you! #grownostr

Narcissists will share things with you to get you to open up about everything in your life. They remember everything and will begin using it against you in and after the relationship. Share things slowly in new relationships. They don't need to know everything now. If trust is earned, then share more. #grownostr