Many of us think that if we could just do or say the right thing we could get the narcissist to change or grow up. This will never happen. If they ever change anything, it will be to better abuse or manipulate us. Because they refuse to change anything unless it benefits them. #grownostr

So many of us think that if we just do a little more, or give in a little more, or even heal a little more, things will be ok. It will always be a struggle if we stay with a narcissist. We can make it less bad, but it won’t ever actually be good. Even if we’re ok, the relationship won’t be. #grownostr

Narcissists thrive on chaos. It's the way they control and manipulate everything they can. They say they want peace, but that is the last thing they actually want. The less we react, the harder they have to try. This can end up exposing them. Either way you have more peace. #grownostr

We end up questioning everything including ourselves because we were trained and programmed that we’re always wrong about everything. That’s normal. It doesn’t mean we want to stay there. It certainly doesn’t mean we’re actually wrong about everything either. #grownostr

Our own mental health is so important. Often it's hard to know what to do for ourselves. What to do is much less important than simply just doing it. Even if it seems like it's nothing. Take the time to go get away. Any time away is better than none. Sometimes nothing is what you need to do. #grownostr

We all want to give to the people we love. When this becomes an expectation, especially without reciprocation it's no longer healthy. You don't have to give to someone who expects it. Make sure you give yourself everything you need first, then to those who reciprocate it. #grownostr

No one wants to believe they are in a toxic relationship or have been abused. It adds to this that many other people don’t see what’s actually happening. We also usually don’t realize how bad it is until we’re well into it. It’s also the first thing we must realize and accept before we can get out. #grownostr

It's not easy to learn to set boundaries for yourself, especially after someone has walked on, abused and broken every one you had. It is something that's possible for all of us to learn. Be kind to you in this process. Every single boundary you work on is a step forward. #grownostr

Narcissists will completely use everyone up in their lives and then shame them for not giving them more. If they think they can get more from you, they’ll come back and demand it. It’s not right or fair, but it is what they will do. We don’t have to participate though and we can opt out of their game. #grownostr