We should feel angry and have all the other emotions. We gave someone everything that only took from us and then demanded more. It's natural for us to have these emotions. It was real for us, even if it was fake for them. We must allow ourselves to feel the way we do in order to process and let go of these emotions. This is part of the path forward for us. It's not easy, but it's worth it and so are you! Healing from narcissistic abuse is inevitable when you have the right tools and support. Personal empowerment is the way. This is what I do. I coach and teach you how to take and build the life you want. To never be beholden to anyone again including our own thoughts. Dm me or schedule a consultation through the link in my bio. #awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach

Forgiving myself has been one of the hardest things I've ever done. I have also realized that there are many layers to this. It's a lifelong process, rather than being something that is ever accomplished. This is also something that you allow yourself to do. It is not something you can force yourself to do. The "WORK" in this is mostly allowing. Allowing ourselves to have the thoughts and feelings without making them or us wrong or bad. #grownostr

Narcissists usually have one target in their lives. This is often the only person that actually sees the abuse. This is why no one else thinks anything is wrong, because it is hidden. They also shame their victims from ever talking to anyone else about anything happening in the relationship. We must break the silence in order to get help and get out of these relationships. Find good people who will listen, they are out there. Healing from narcissistic abuse is inevitable when you have the right tools and support. Personal empowerment is the way. This is what I do. I coach and teach you how to take and build the life you want. To never be beholden to anyone again including our own thoughts. Dm me or schedule a consultation through the link in my bio. #awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach

Proud of me and I'm taking the time to acknowledge and capture it. This is also a reminder for all of you out there to find things to be proud of yourself for as well. We always find what we're looking for. Look for more gratitude and you'll find it. The next step is allowing yourself to embrace it.

Don't ever think "They won't use that against me" because they will. They will catalogue everything they can about you and make up the rest. Ultimately it will all be used against you at some point and then continuously. Reacting as little as possible is one of the best defenses. #grownostr

It seems like every single little simple thing we want to do ends up having a number, or a dozen, other steps in order to get it done. I could be frustrated or angry, but I laughed and let the emotions out that way. Sometimes it is frustrating, but I get to choose how I want to feel. Many times I do have to work through emotions I don't want to get to the ones I do want, but it's better than feeling different than what I actually want. We can all do this, if we learn and take the time to.

Their words are designed to stab and cut us down, but in a way that no one else can see it. They learn everything about you to be able to use all of it against you. They know what they're doing even if no one else can see it. Don't believe their lies. They will try to hide it and excuse it away. Everyone else might even believe them, but you don't have to.  #grownostr