5 qualifier questions as a way for men to actively screen women for compatibility based on personal values. The idea is to flip the script: instead of trying to impress everyone, you qualify her to see if she fits your life and standards. These aren’t rigid; tailor them to your own priorities (e.g., family, fun, kindness).
Here are the 5 qualifier questions, with explanations on how to use them:
1 Are you close with your family, or what is your family life like?
This checks for strong family values. Share a quick story about your own family first (e.g., “I just went to my niece’s birthday party—it was chaos but fun”), then ask. If she lights up and shares positively, it’s a green light; if she brushes it off, it might be a mismatch.
2 Do you like doing goofy, kid-like activities, even if they seem childish?
This reveals if she’s playful and fun-loving. Bring it up casually, like mentioning a silly adventure you had, and gauge her enthusiasm. It helps spot if she can match your energy for lighthearted moments.
3 Are you kind to strangers and those around you?
This assesses her character and empathy. Observe her in real interactions (e.g., how she treats waitstaff) or ask about a scenario, like “What’s the nicest thing you’ve done for someone you don’t know?” Kindness is a core attractor for long-term fit.
4 Do you like to eat?
This uncovers shared interests in food and enjoyment of life’s pleasures. Transition naturally, e.g., “I’m a big foodie—what’s your go-to guilty pleasure?” It keeps things light while qualifying for compatibility in simple joys.
5 Do you like to travel?
This tests for adventure and openness to new experiences. Ask about her dream trip or a past adventure: “If you could go anywhere right now, where would it be?” It shows if she’s aligned with your lifestyle goals.
