What's a good gender neutral term for "good guy" and "bad guy"? Cuz of course sometimes ladies are the "good guys" or the "bad guys"! The best I got at the moment is just heroes and villains. You got anything better for me?

Most of the time there is no "good guy", it's just all "bad guys".

It annoys me that right wing people can't understand why socialism is popular. But to be fair, it also baffles me that the lefties can't understand why people would fear the "collectivism".

Now I got no idea if Will Smith is guilty of this or not, but the Diddy documentary, headlines like this, Grindr crashing during RNC conventions, etc. makes me ponder how much ugly, how much toxic behavior is downhill of men being intensely shamed for deviating from strict heterosexuality in any fashion. If we lived in a world where men could experiment with their sexuality without heavy social consequences, would we have this headline? Would Diddy have become the monster that he is???

Yup, and this is why he wins. Human's are not wired for "rugged individualism" we are wired for community. People who can't see that and speak to that will keep losing to people who can. A rant about it ->

A Libertarian’s Guide to Understanding the Popularity of Socialism – HannahMR

Why is sexual assault so endemic in our culture? Because we are obsessed with power. We have this collective unconscious view of the world as a zero-sum hierarchy and we are obsessed with being above others… obsessed with having power over others. Grape isn’t about sex, it’s about power. If you have an insatiable need to feel that you have power over someone else, what is the most brutal and intense way to prove your power over them? Grape. Famous prolific abusers, Epstien, Diddy, Weinstein, etc. are all men obsessed with accumulating power. No coincidence there. Countries with the lowest ages of consent or lowest ages at which marriage is allowed are also the most patriarchal, Afghanistan, Iran, etc. I doubt there is a higher rate of people with pedophilic urges in these places, it is simply that having a very young bride gives the husband much better odds at controlling his wife. It’s not about sex, it’s about power. And this epidemic of sexual abuse will continue for as long as we keep our cultural obsession with having power over others.

My hair is getting pretty ridiculously long. It's a pain. But I'm thinking I'll keep it till summer when I'll do a dramatic chop. But until then... what are some fabulous hair styles that require super long hair?

In a strange plot twist the red pilled dudes have gotten so bizarre that when I get pulled into a debate with one of them I now spend most of that time defending men. At this point the only way they can make their world view work is if they decide that indeed men are violent monsters and that is appropriate and necessary. ...and so I just wind up spending all my time explaining that men are actually wonderful, unique, honorable, caring people.